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Revenge Mindset

Once upon a time, I wrote poison pen letters for CEOs and others too close to situations to craft an objective response. I helped them reframed narratives and burn bridges in style.
Posts on this page continue that tradition, but with a twist: I'm using my AITA post responses to demonstrate why artificial intelligence will never replace human writers. AI can't understand the revenge mindset, and I don't think it ever will. And if it ever does, we'll all be dead anyway.


Hand Stitches & The Hair Hating Husband

12/30/2024

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ASKED:
I cut my hand very badly and have several stitches and limited grip. I asked my spouse to help me wash my very long hair, brush it and straighten it because I have a business meeting the next morning. He says he will, and I go to the bathroom. He's watching TV.

​I yell for him from the tub.

Nothing...

I end up managing to wash my hair myself.

Then I managed to brush it painfully and with my other hand.

Then he comes to bed and has obviously either completely forgot or just didn’t care.

I sarcastically and passively aggressively am continuing to brush my hair (with my other hand), and he's like, “What?”

So I point out I asked for help, and he ignored me and watched TV. He says I should have asked again. I pointed out that I don’t have to be asked multiple times to do what he needs and often help him out without being asked at all if I know it will help him out. He says I was overreacting. I think he’s the AH.

CHAT GPT's ANALYSIS (SHOWING WHY IT CAN NEVER REPLACE US):
Analyzing this anonymous writer, we can deduce several aspects of her personality and how she approaches relationships, communication, and conflict. Here’s a detailed breakdown based on specific clues from her writing:

Personality Traits and Characteristics
  1. Emotionally Expressive and Reflective
    • The writer openly shares her frustrations and feelings of hurt, indicating that she’s comfortable expressing emotions and reflecting on her experiences.
    • Clue: The detailed recounting of events shows she’s processing the situation deeply and feels the need to articulate her perspective.
  2. Detail-Oriented
    • She provides specific actions (e.g., washing her hair, brushing it painfully, calling out for help) and sequences of events, showing a focus on detail and a need to convey the full context.
    • Clue: The inclusion of actions like “yell for him from the tub” and the exact nature of her injury (several stitches, limited grip) suggests she values precision when recounting her side.
  3. Strong Sense of Fairness
    • She highlights her contributions to the relationship and contrasts them with her husband’s perceived lack of reciprocation, indicating she values balance and fairness.
    • Clue: “I don’t have to be asked multiple times to do what he needs and often help him out without being asked at all.”
  4. Resilient but Resentful
    • Despite being upset, she pushes through the pain to wash and brush her hair, demonstrating self-reliance. However, her tone suggests growing resentment, likely due to unmet expectations in her relationship.
    • Clue: “I end up managing to wash my hair myself,” paired with passive-aggressive actions like continuing to brush her hair in front of him to make a point.
  5. Conflict-Avoidant but Passive-Aggressive
    • She doesn’t confront her husband directly in the moment but instead uses sarcasm and passive-aggressive behavior to express her displeasure.
    • Clue: “I sarcastically and passively aggressively am continuing to brush my hair (with my other hand), and he’s like, ‘What?’”
  6. Relationally Sensitive
    • The writer clearly cares about how much effort her husband puts into the relationship. His inaction feels personal to her, likely because she equates it with a lack of care or attention.
    • Clue: She interprets his behavior as either forgetting or not caring, suggesting she sees actions (or inactions) as reflective of emotional commitment.
  7. Assertive but With Room for Growth in Communication
    • While she voices her needs, the way she communicates them could be clearer and more direct. Her frustration at having to “ask again” indicates she prefers proactive support but may not always communicate this effectively.
    • Clue: “He says I should have asked again. I pointed out that I don’t have to be asked multiple times.”

What These Clues Tell Us About Her Life
  1. Professional Ambition
    • The mention of a business meeting and the need to straighten her hair implies she takes her professional image seriously. She likely strives for a sense of control and preparedness in her work life, which contrasts with the perceived lack of support at home.
    • Clue: “Because I have a business meeting the next morning.”
  2. Reliance on Partner for Emotional and Practical Support
    • Her expectation that her spouse would help with something as personal as hair care indicates she sees their relationship as a partnership where mutual support is key.
    • Clue: “I asked my spouse to help me wash my very long hair, brush it and straighten it.”
  3. Possibly Feels Underappreciated
    • Her tone and focus on her own efforts suggest she may feel her contributions to the relationship are undervalued.
    • Clue: The comparison between how often she helps her spouse without being asked and his inaction in her time of need.

Possible Areas for Growth
  1. Clearer Communication
    • Her reliance on indirect cues (like yelling from the tub or brushing her hair passively aggressively) shows room for improvement in directly articulating her needs and expectations.
    • Clue: She admits she was sarcastic and passive-aggressive instead of assertively repeating her request.
  2. Managing Expectations
    • While her frustration is valid, her belief that her partner should instinctively know what to do without being asked multiple times might lead to recurring disappointment.
    • Clue: “I don’t have to be asked multiple times to do what he needs.”

Conclusion: The writer appears to be a detail-oriented, emotionally expressive individual with a strong sense of fairness and personal resilience. She values reciprocity in her relationship and feels hurt when her efforts aren’t matched. While her frustration is understandable, her passive-aggressive tendencies and indirect communication style suggest opportunities for growth in expressing her needs more clearly and constructively.

ANSWER:

​I have several questions:
  • Why was it “painful” to brush with the other hand?
  • ​Why didn’t you grab some dry shampoo and/or put your “very long hair” up?
  • You seriously expected him to straighten your hair? COME ON.

And when he came in the room, instead of saying, “Hey! I need you to brush my hair,” you dramatically did it yourself with your other hand, admittedly being passive aggressive—when it seems he would have done it. He didn't WANT to, but he would have. The trouble is, you wanted him to WANT to do it. That's the real issue you had here. Yeah, I know.

​Take accountability for your part in the miscommunication and move on. Neither are AHs, but you don’t know how to communicate with each other. This isn’t life or death, he didn’t leave you starving and bedridden. I’d be careful about listening to the chronically single dramaticons calling him a red flag. They probably hate men, hate themselves and hate you too! 
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